If you've been reading this little blog of mine, you probably know that I usually only write photography related things, updates or just sad words. I don't write or talk much about anything psychology related or mental health issues even though I studied it for poly because I don't feel like I'm fit to.
If you follow anything K-pop related at all, then you'll know SHINee's Jonghyun recently just passed away after struggling against depression for a long time. I am no fan, and neither do I follow his or their music, but I can sympathise with the fans. It's truly heartbreaking, the more I read on, the sadder I get. While most people believe that suicide is selfish, because you're causing grief to the people around you, we have to think in their shoes too. To some, it's not an end to life but an end to their pain. I don't know his struggles, his dilemmas, but I do respect the decision he came to. It definitely wasn't easy. And I most certainly hope he will be happier in the afterlife, I honestly do.
It makes me think, makes me reflect a lot. Because this happens a lot more than you and I think. There are people struggling with depression all around us. We just don't notice it. Why? Because their struggles aren't written on their face like physical injuries are. They can be smiling, laughing and having a good time with you and still be depressed. That's how depression works. The negative thoughts, the turmoil, the suicidal thoughts are constantly there as a package. It's a constant fight in them.
Trust me when I say that most people think lightly of depression. They just think that it's a phase and people will eventually become happier. It's sad to know this if you ask me. We wish for the whole human population to be educated on the mental health but it's honestly just not possible. Let's be real, too many people can't be bothered. So I'll do what I can as a psychology diploma graduate. I'm here to tell you to keep showing that love and concern for those you know are struggling with that fight. Here to tell you to show some care and concern for those around you by dropping in on them every once in a while. You never know how a little gesture can go a long way, how a listening ear can change decisions. I'm here to tell you that what they don't want to hear is "just try and be happy" or "endure it for a little more". It's not that encouragements are useless, but you have to be tactful with it. How are they supposed to try and be happy? Say something a little more useful. Tell them you love them, show them that love and just be there for them.
It made me realise too, how much of a loss I would be in if I was placed in a situation where someone close to me just goes. I honestly wouldn't know what to do, what to feel. The thing about this is that it can happen to anyone. And that's scary.
So for all my family and friends, I want y'all to know that I love all of you. And that y'all can hit me up or call me any time if y'all need somebody to talk to.
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